Birthday Behavior


As we grow older, we forget the  power of dreaming and wishing and seldom believe in the law of attraction. Instead, we tend to have more faith in the power of working and doing in order to make things happen. This is why I think it’s so important to celebrate birthdays because it’s the ONLY day out of the year that we are usually forced to take the time out and make a wish for ourselves. Just wishing . . . with hopes that it will come true.

I believe in the power of having dreams for yourself and wishing for something so much and so hard that it just comes to you because you’ve wanted it so badly.

bday6It’s not just all blowing out candles, prayer, and pixie dust. You have to play the biggest role in creating a happy and authentic life for yourself—your life with your stories and events. The thing about reality is that it’s still there waiting for you the next morning…so for me personally, my happiness thrives best on authenticity.


Anyone who knows me knows my birthday is like an international holiday called SHERECE DAY!  It’s a week-long celebration, so the events make up for the lack of originality in coining a term to celebrate the day my mother gave birth to me (love you, Mommy **sends kiss**).  Yes, I’m a grown adult who still believes that birthdays are magical—you just have to play your part in creating the magic.  This year my birthday fell on Thursday,  November 13th, 2014.  Naturally, it kicked off with a little shopping at the beginning of the week.


I worked my way from the top of Madison Avenue over to Fifth Avenue,  shopping until sunset. It was a great feeling  this time in particular because the gifts were all from me. The stores of choice were Chanel Gucci and Giuseppe Zanotti 

All for me, and all from me. #HAPPYGIRL


Unfortunately my outfit is no longer available in stores, but I will be sure to list similar.  It took on a life of its own while shopping. Apart from my girlfriend taking my personal photos, people were stopping me and asking for selfies and even just to take a quick flick because they liked my outfit so much! I don’t think I could have asked for the  day to play out any better than it did, considering it was the start of Sherece Week.

I definitely had my celebrity moment and feeling PRETTY & POWERFUL IN PINK.  Two people stopped me and asked me outright if  I was a celebrity, and when I said no, they asked for a pic with me anyway!  I couldn’t decide if this was the power of my shopping bags or the magic of my outfit. For this blog’s sake, let’s just say it was OUTFIT MAGIC!


Even though I shop a lot, sometimes I’ll sit on things in my closet and not wear them for as long as a year or more after purchasing. Having this blog, however, will certainly rid me of that habit. It’s not that I have so much that I can’t wear it all—I honestly wish that were the case! The real problem is that I’m extremely picky and try to perfect each outfit. Even though this mohair sweater is three years old, I never felt moved to wear it until I purchased this  patent leather skirt in the summer. I had to wait until fall again to wear the outfit , and here you have it.

The day started great and my week ended even better. Take a peek at my Birthday Diary entry to get the deets on how Sherece Week played out. xoxoSB




H&M pink mohair sweater  (similar here)

Topshop pink vinyl pencil skirt (similar here)

BCBG shoes (similar here and here)

Christian Dior bag

Christian Dior sunglasses (similar here)

Photos by: Tovah-Marie Bembridge


2014 was the first year I decided I did not want to make a “big deal” out of my birthday. Normally I drive myself crazy with custom cakes and planning a party. (Getting your closest friends together for a birthday dinner and party is sometimes a bigger headache than you think!) Trying to coordinate where to eat, what to wear, and where to party on a budget  can easily take on a life of its own. This year I  decided to skip that headache. The fantastic twist was that all my friends and loved ones decided to make a production out of it instead!

I thought that birthday shopping was going to be the highlight of the week but I was in for so many more surprises that warmed my heart and had me feeling like pudding.

First,  on Wednesday, November 12th, two dozen pink roses showed up and then later an Edible Arrangement with balloons from three of my friends.


Then on Thursday Morning, SHERECE DAY, I woke up to my door completely covered in birthday wrapping paper and a stack of Bergdorf Goodman boxes from my neighbor. This was my face (and in this order): My very own Birthday Door. I swear my building must believe a princess lives on the third floor. My neighbor is beyond amazing.


The day only got better from here. I had dinner at Beautique  where I was surprised with more roses  (but red ones this time!) and a gift from Tiffany’s.


I looked like  the Cheshire cat from Alice in Wonderland smiling from ear to ear. 

The dress I wore for dinner was from Topshop Exclusive Collection. I bought it at the the opening of the 5th Ave location; it was perfect for a birthday dinner for two.


My mother and aunt did not fail to surprise me for dessert. I was wondering why they kept asking me where I was going for dinner. Here I was thinking I was just going to have some kind of random dessert with a candle on top when out came  my favorite red velvet cake from Lords Bakery in Brooklyn Of course I made a wish.


I didn’t know what to wish for—everything I wanted was actually happening at that moment! Nevertheless, I did not waste my wish I’m a strong believer in the power of the birthday wish.

I’m very private about my personal life and who I date—only close friends and family know that information. Having a relationship that’s very public for me is very stressful because then you’re faced with so many expectations…not to mention the explanations if things don’t work out and you start to date someone else. However, I couldn’t help myself with sharing this pic…well, a peek at least. Kissing in the rain (yes I’m a hopeless romantic.Allow me to have my moment…in the rain…on my birthday…thank you! )


A PERFECT ENDING TO THE BEST DAY OF THE YEAR…lol…well, we’re not done just yet

The next day, Friday November 14th, these showed up. How gorge is this arrangement?! It came with balloons and chocolates too. I have the most thoughtful friends and they know me too well. 


Later…this little black box from Net-a-porter followed them…yes, I totally agree; I was definitely having the BEST BIRTHDAY EVER .


When shoes like this show up in the mail, that’s a reason in itself to celebrate.  Location of the birthday party: Tao Downtown Lounge.


Since I had wings on my feet  I decided to go with an angel look and pair my silver heels with a white matte sequin dress. I purchased this dress at Herve Leger during their summer sale. If you like it, you can buy it here now for a fraction of the cost I paid during the summer.


You know when you’re having too much fun at your own party when you forget to take a good full body outfit pic. Sorry, guys, I don’t really have any great photos of my outfit other than a few that my friends snapped of me.  I spent the night dancing like my feet had wings, bouncing from the top of the table to twirling on the ground with all the people who love me. It was an incredible evening.  The best part was all my friends were all dancing and enjoying with me. Even my mom and aunt were in on the #TURNUP


The one year I decided not to plan anything but shopping, the party, the dinner, and even magnum bottles of Clicquot and Belvedere, it all happened. Definitely ironic. Last year I spent so much time planning and preparing, getting a custom cake and special hairdo, and invited far more people…yet it did not compare in the least to the small and intimate birthday I had this year. Smaller in size but so rich in company. xoxoSB