Hello lovies, have you missed me as much as I’ve missed writing for you?
I took a major hiatus since March. I guess you could say that I’ve been on a bit of a living spree. Doing everything that I love as often as I can, with the people I care for the most. This year I spent the least amount of money on designer fashion for myself but in retrospect, this year has been extremely rewarding with regards to saving more.
As a fashion blogger, it’s almost expected for me to go out and splurge on luxy trends but I’ve had zero desire to do so. I’ve just scrolled through each trend monthly on my timeline, watching everyone keep up with the logo mania of 2018. #Fendiprints off ! I don’t know whether to call SHERECE2017 a retail monster or shopping enthusiast, but I was the girl who felt as though if I didn’t have my $7000.00 Marie Antoinette runway Peekaboo my life was literally going to come to an end.
I buy luxury items that I know I will wear forever and be able to incorporate in my closet forever. Fashion trends from the runways this year have not caused me to run rampant through Barneys and Bergdorf’s but has instead translated into a Zara It List each month. I love Zara because it’s such a great place to shop for fast fashion without having to think twice about a purchase.
Believe it or not, it has been 3 years since I started this blog. Feb 2019 my baby will be stepping into it’s fourth year. I’m happy to have created this space where I can play with looks and trends and literally play dress up for you guys. In doing so I’ve developed a strong sense of my personal style and aesthetic. Thank you all so much for all your love, likes and support!
I’ve always promised to share all the details of my vacations from travel to wardrobe but I’ve failed terribly at doing so. My travel diaries have instead translated into Instagram posts and Instagram stories. This gave me a way to document interesting and amazing moments in my life while also sharing with you guys immediately, without having to think of the preparation that goes into organizing an actual travel blog post. I still get lots of DM’s and emails about the places I stayed and how I got there etc. from previous trips. So I will try to update the TRAVEL section of my blog with some useful details.
Since we’re on the topic of sharing I just wanted to address a recent decision to keep my blog strictly focused on fashion, beauty and current events. I know how much my followers love my stories on my travels and personal life. I’ve been blessed to have access to an above average lifestyle, so I was happy to share it with other women who want the same. The amount of DM’s and messages I receive from stories is unreal. I’m so grateful for all the positive engagement, comments and messages from other women who admire me and are inspired by the aspects of my personal and social life that I have shared on Instagram. However moving forward I’ve decided to KEEP MY PERSONAL LIFE PERSONAL.
I think of instgram as this awesome creative space. I’ve also used it as a place where I can document and share all the fun, happy and positive moments of my life with others. No one wants to scroll down your timeline to reflect on all your unhappy moments as they unwind throughout the year. Not exactly engaging content for our 2018 millennials.
Instagram is a microcosm where everyone is literally living their best life. Even though it’s a large community, in relation to the real world, it’s just a place that exists within our cell phones on one app.
Unfortunately, not everyone comes to Instagram seeking inspiration or to be creative themselves. There are a million and one fake pages, trolls, and disingenuous people with more malicious intent than any normal person can fathom. I’m not sure whether to call them trolls or my very own personal catalog of unrequited cyber lovers who are fully vested in trying to dissect every aspect of who you are and your life based solely on what you share on the gram.
Social media can be good fun but it’s evolved into a breeding ground for toxicity simply due to the world we live in today. Everyone has an opinion on everything and people make other people’s lives their own personal vendetta. Everything needs to be ethically accurate or dissected for its deeper meaning to the extent of which cultural appropriation can be borne out of simple admiration of another culture. It’s very real and very disturbing. I’m sorry to have to censor my content on instagram or fall into a bit of a recluse but it’s just a result of me trying to protect my most happy and precious moments as well as the people who make me the happiest. I have zero desire to have any aspect of my life analyzed by randoms with no affialiation or association to me, who feel like they know me, solely based on the few personal details I share.
I love love, I love feeling loved, I love being in love. “I am someone who is looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.” This is one of my all time favorite quotes on love by Carrie Bradshaw, because it just resonates with my personal experience as well as the intensity with which I love as a person. This being said, what kind of Carrie would I be if I did not protect my Mr. Big.
Love comes with responsibility. It’s my job to protect the people I love and cherish all the things that mean the most to me. I sincerely do hope that all my genuine followers understand. Do not be too disheartened because I do believe this decision will force me to be more consistent with creating content for The Look By Sherece. You guys may be in for outfit overload come 2019.
The Look By Sherece is a fun, creative space where I can interact with and learn from other intelligent, stylish, eclectic, women who may very well be self diagnosed with a little bit of wanderlust and a strong desire for vivre la grande vie. Thank you all for following me on this amazing journey I get to call My Life. I look forward to sharing my fashion diaries with you in 2019. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this post as well as this look so don’t hesitate to drop me a line in my comment section below. I’m happy and eager to hear from you all.
Merry Christmas lovies. xoxoSB
GET THE LOOK
Alexandre Vauthier tulle detail mini dress
Alaia mini tote bag
Jeremy Scott Itchy & Scratchy cowgirl boots ( Fall 2016 Cowboys & Poodles Collection )
Moschino x H&M logo choker
Moschino x H&M bracelet
Photographer : Michelle Ester
12 thoughts on “A Very Personal Adieu !”
love this post SB. Totally understand your reasoning. This same concern has kept me from sharing too much on the gram even if my timeline appears boring. That said, I’m looking forward to all your fashion and travel posts in 2019! Xoxo
Thanks so much for your feedback Ash! I’m happy to hear that you understand where I’m coming from. There is always a struggle between sharing too much and sharing just enough. So I’ve eliminated this problem by just deciding to KEEP THINGS FULLY FOCUSED ON FASHION. No details into my social life, nor persoonal life, PERIOD.
I’m very much looking forward to creating interesting and fun outfit posts for you all. Merry Christmas darling, xoxoSB.
You scared me! From your title I was afraid you were shutting everything down! Though I’m usually too shy to comment, I like and admire from afar! I’m glad you’ll still be around. As nice as it is to share the things we’re excited about, you’re right, it’s better to keep some things under wraps! Looking forward to new fashion and travel in the new year! Happy Holidays!
Hello Jasmine, thanks for choosing to share your thoughts with me today. I would never ever shut down my blog. This is a place I created for me to express myself and my creativity FREELY, so it’s not going to disappear anytime soon. I will however take a break from social media from time to time. Incessant consumption can be draining and cause you to loose touch with the people and things around you that matter the most.
I hope that you will not be “shy” in the future now that you’ve already broken your silence so to speak 🙂
I love hearing from you guys. It’s a part of what makes creating all this content worth it! xoxoSB
First, I have to ask what do you use to take your photos on? They are always so nice. Second, your writing is very engaging. Hope to see more in the New Year! Third, I got second hand sadness from your post a little. I started following you maybe back in 2015 or so. I like to follow women especially black women who live similar lifestyles (dating-wise and luxury) to me especially when society tries to tell us we are monolithic. I deleted a lot from my page, stopped posting and then deleted Instagram for almost a year and a half due to me feeling like boundaries were being crossed and it was sort of downgrading all of the blessings and beautiful experiences in my real life. Unfortunately, there are negative individuals who feed off of light and positivity in real life and social media and try to turn it into darkness. Now, I just use IG mainly to keep up with fashion, art, events in the city, restaurants, and fun. Anyways, hope you are enjoying the holidays and wishing you magic, love and prosperity in 2019 ❤️✨
Hey girl its so great to hear from you on my blog. Love talking hair and fashion with you on insta so it’s super cool that you’ve finally made it over to my blog. LOVING THE LOVE! Hmmm… just realized I really need to add a more undated keyboard to the site that enables emojis….lol! I had no heart emoji just now….lol. Anyway back to your comment.
Thrilled that you find my writing engaging. YAY! My writing skills is a work in progress but I really do love to write. I’m one of those people who send THE LONGEST text messages and emails ever….lol!
I totally know what you mean, I follow so many affluent fashionistas on instagram of various ethinicities who are living their best life EVERYDAY. I’m totally here for that. I’m sorry that like myself you felt as though “boundaries” were being crossed so you had to take a step back. Stepping away from things, reevaluating your postion and deciding to take a new approach to things are all REALLY SMART and logical things to do when you feel personally attacked or as though you’re being misconstrued.
I’m sorry that I longer feel inclined to share details of my personal life with my followers but I’m thrilled to hear that you all understand where I’m coming from and you’re still excited about my fashion content.
Oh also, to answer your question, my camera is super old. I’ve used the Canon Rebel SL1 EOS 100D with a 50mm or 28mm lense. Starting 2019 I will be using my NEW Sony Alpha a7 III Mirrorless digital camera with the 24-105mm lens kit. This is my fave christmas present this year, as I’ve been wanting a mirrorless camera for a while. I’m excited to start shooting and playing with edits. So stay tuned for that.
Bella, I loved this article! I agree with you
Thanks for Virgilia. Thank you for your unrelenting support over the years. xoxo!
Reading this i brought tears to my eyes not because im sad about your decision but because i soo happy for you, & I completely understand.!!! You must preserve your purity! Your love & your life ppl fail to realise tooo others are using social media platform for pure evil. I truly admire you Sherece, i hope to meet you one day, hope to be you bff or penpal or whatever becomes of us all who follow your blog and whole heartedly supports you. I look forward to having girl talk and getting advice from you. Hope we can all grow together & spread lots of love & our love will surpass the evil of this world but until then. I Miss You
so nice to meet you! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog. I’m thrilled that you feel inspired by me and I look forward to getting to know you better. I love interacting with the people who follow me. xoxoSB
Amazing post! Very interesting read. Definitely looking forward to more.
Thanks BABYDOLL! A new post coming your way in a few hours. xoxoSB